-Excerpt from the original article by Henrik Edberg at The Positivty Blog
What would you like to improve about yourself?
Although we may not want to admit it publicly I think a lot of us feel like we could use an improvement in self confidence.
Fortunately there are better advice out there than the often exclaimed “Just be more confident, man!” or “Have another beer!”.
There are actually quite a few practical tips you can use to raise your self confidence. Here are 24 of them.
As usual, with these tip-lists, don’t try it all at once. Just try a few suggestions and see which ones work best for you.
Some of them you’ll need to practice a bit before they start to pay off.
It’s like playing the guitar or soccer, it might not work too well the first or second time you try it.
And keep in mind that you have a choice. You can choose if you want to raise or lower your self confidence.
Many of these suggestions can only boost your confidence temporarily. But this can allow you to do something you may not have been able to do before. And as you do it you build a deeper confidence in yourself. And collect concrete proof that you can actually do and achieve a lot of things.
1. Ask yourself: What’s the worst that could happen?
It’s easy to get lost in a vague fear – or very improbable scenarios – of what might happen if you go through with something. When you really ask yourself what the worst thing that could happen you get a clearer picture, a bit of fear vanishes and you discover that the potential consequences are seldom as frightening as you first thought. By doing this you define the potential consequences and also discover that whatever the might happen you can manage and recover from it.
2. Use uplifting music.
A classic. Use inspiring and motivating music to pump up yourself before leaving for a night out, before a big test or meeting, before anything that might make your confidence unstable. This works pretty well as a temporary state-booster.
3. Try something new.
When you break out of your comfort zone and try something you haven’t before you not only challenge yourself. You expand your own limitations and your confidence in your own abilities, in how many things you can actually do. By trying something new on a continual basis you can also lessen your fears and live a life with less barriers and limitations.
4. Make a plan to do something. Then follow through.
This is probably one of the most important and effective ways to building lasting confidence. When you decide to do something and don’t back down but go through with it you get proof of your – often underestimated – capabilities and your confidence in yourself soars. If you need motivation to get going have a look at 25 Simple Ways to Motivate Yourself.
5. Use Guided Meditation.
I’ve already written a bit about guided meditations and their positive effect in One Very Simple Way to Feel Relaxed for 24 Hours and How to Move Beyond Being a Self-Help Junkie. I find that guided mediations such as Paraliminals are an excellent way to break out of negative emotional states and ease into more positive ones.
For feeling more confident for a few days I recommend trying the two Paraliminals called Self-Esteem Supercharger and Talking to Win. They are sold by The Learning Company for $29.95 each and there is a 30 day money back guarantee. You can also link to The Learning Company from your website and receive a free CD. If you want to try a free guided mediation right now have a look at the One Very Simple Way to Feel Relaxed for 24 Hours article.